Love Cycles - Channeled
This is a channeled message from spirit about love cycles created from toxic relationships and ancestral trauma. We hurt other people because we don’t feel worthy of their love. We don’t feel worthy of unconditional love because we’ve never felt it from our parents. They loved us the best and only way they knew how but nonetheless, it was not true unequivocal love. We have only experienced love in a tainted way.
“We accept the love we think we deserve.” ―Stephen Chbosky, The Perks of Being a Wallflower
When we give love, we continue to spread the cycle and give it the same way we received it. So, we continue to pass on the trauma and pass on the ways of love that was embedded in us from our families. Your parents are only capable of loving you the way they were taught. The love trauma cycle lasts for generations and generations, only coming to an end when someone is capable of healing the wound.
Hurt people, hurt people. Traumatized people, traumatize people. Until you do the inner work and heal your trauma, you will continue to pass it on to every person that you love.
We cannot grasp the idea that anyone could truly love us unconditionally. Again, we have never felt that so when we love others, we have to tear them down to create understanding that it is possible for someone to love us. We are attracted to people with the same types of wounds as us. We are drawn to people with similar love styles and love languages because that’s what we think love is. We think love is this distorted way that we have experienced, and we gravitate towards that. Even if deep down we want someone who treats us with respect and adoration, our subconscious is full of lies that tell us otherwise. The subconscious will signal to us traits we saw in our parents or caregivers, and we will energetically match or vibe with these types of people. If your parents argued a lot when you were growing up, your subconscious mind may think that love should institute arguing. I have a podcast episode on the energetics of relationships where I go into more detail about matching with other. You can listen to that here.
As we heal, we find ourselves letting go of older relationships because we have healed those parts of us that once didn’t feel worthy of unconditional love. The more we heal, we expand and open our heart. We begin to realize what love really looks and feels like. We discover that love truly means to us and not what we were conditioned to feel. We are no longer drawn to the same relationships because our wounds do not match. Do not be afraid to let go of people. This is a natural part of growth. As you heal your understanding of love, you will outgrow those who are still stuck in trauma cycles.
To heal your own trauma around love, you have to be aware of what beliefs you have. What did you parents or caregivers teach you about love? How were you treated by the people who love you? When you start asking yourself these questions, you are bringing awareness to what has been hidden deep inside your subconscious. These are limiting beliefs that you have accumulated throughout your life and even past lives. Energetic love cycles have been passed down your bloodline through your ancestors. A belief is an opinion that we have accepted as truth. It is up to you to uncover the beliefs that no longer serve you and end the cycles for your lineage.
